Have you ever heard the statement, “What you focus on expands”? It’s a fact of life, and a good one to remember.
A friend of mine reminded me about it in a recent blog post she wrote. She had attended a conference where one of the speakers, a brain scientist, asked the audience, “How many neurons over a lifetime have you dedicated to worry? Or to fear, or guilt, or limitation of any kind?”
She said his choice of the word “dedicate” really caught her attention. And rightly so. The more you repeat a thought, the more deeply you carve neural pathways for it in your brain. And the deeper the pathway, the easier it is for your thoughts to flow along it. You’re dedicating those neurons with every similar thought. “What you focus on expands.”
When you create pathways of limitation, they become launching pads for a nefarious secondary force I once heard named “the zucchini god”—the one who instantly appears when you think a motivated thought and convinces you that you need a nap or a bag of potato chips first, the one who wants you spend your life being a squash.
The way to avoid making life easy for the zucchini god is to purposefully design the neural pathways you want to create—the ones that will lead you toward the actions that are aligned with your vision of who and how you want to be, what you want to accomplish and attain.
And the way that you do that is by getting clear about what it is that you want. That doesn’t mean you have to set huge goals or create lofty or long-range visions. Your intention can be as short-range as a day, or even less. But decide what is it you want and put it into words for yourself. Ideally, write them down somewhere that you’ll throughout the day as a reminder. That adds the fuel of attention to your intention. And attention plus intention is the key. It’s the magic formula.
The more attention you give to your intention—even if you only read it or remember it—the more you’re building the neural pathways that your thoughts can travel to take you where you want to go.
When you catch yourself traveling down a pathway of limitation, throw a big bright “Detour” sign into the middle of it and turn your attention, your focus, to your intention. Remind yourself what it will feel like to be and do the things you want to be and do: kinder, braver, more persistent, more in control, more creative, more appreciative, more in charge of your choices.
Then take whatever action you can to move toward the object of your intention, even if it’s nothing more than squaring your shoulders, slowing your breathing to relax into the moment, and putting on a smile.
You can continue to grow deeper pathways of limitation, or focus your attention on moving on a trajectory toward your true desires.
It’s like the old American Cherokee story about the two wolves. One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.
“One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
“The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Decide to dedicate your neurons to the things that bring you joy and satisfaction. Name your intentions, then feed them with all the attention you can muster.
And may your good wolf win!
Warmly,
Susan
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